PRACTICE SELF-LOVE! DON’T MAKE EXCUSES.
When we get nervous the human brain makes up excuses. And we believe them. We make up excuses not to love ourselves or take care of ourselves. Sometimes life just takes over and work is crazy busy. Sometimes it is more important to spend time with our spouses. We also use excuses like ‘I want to lose weight first’ and ‘I don’t have the money right now’. Here I want to show you that no matter the excuse, you CAN do it! You are worthy of self love!
‘I DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME FOR MYSELF’
It is important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself mentally, you are not going to be able to handle taking care of everyone else. Just like in the security demonstration in the air plane when they tell you to put the oxygen mask on yourself first before you help others.
Sometimes I am the worst at making sure I am giving myself mental health breaks and that is why I think it is so important to talk about this. I make the same excuses as above and sometimes I need someone to say ‘slow down, give yourself a break, breathe for a minute’.
At a boudoir session you are able to breathe, and love yourself for a few hours as a kickstart to take that feeling home with you. Think of all the energy you will save on a daily basis if you stop comparing yourself to others, or stop worrying about what other people will think of how you look. You get to see where your beauty really comes from and this lifts such a huge mental weight.
You need to take time for yourself, why not spend it having an amazing time that leaves you feeling empowered and with an album full of memories of the experience in the form of amazing photos of yourself?
‘I HAVE TO LOSE / GAIN WEIGHT FIRST’
No, you do not. At least not for your boudoir photo session. Don’t forget, the biggest power you have is being YOU! We all think we need to change, because that is how society has set us up. Because all the celebrities and models look perfect in magazines. But guess what: They are all professionally retouched! I know, because I was there, I have done it. Even the most ‘perfect’ models I have shot in my 20+ years in the fashion industry, even after having perfect hair, makeup and styling done for hours... they are still being retouched. It is the standard.
Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the ‘ideal body’ represents only about 5% of American females? It is crazy and simply not realistic or even healthy to maintain a body like that on an ongoing basis.
You do not have to be a certain size to love yourself! You do not have to fit unattainable measurements set by an industry that wants you to feel bad so you buy their products. Please love or at least accept your body how it is right now. Even if you have health goals that will change your body, please stop comparing your body to others and be kind to yourself in the meanwhile. It doesn’t benefit anyone if you are not kind to yourself.
”Never have I felt more comfortable in front of a lens. If you’re looking to bring more confidence into your world and sex appeal into your relationships she is your photographer!”
– ELLEY
Show yourself how adorable and what a beautiful badass in progress you are right now. Your photo sessions get even more interesting over time. You can see how you progress and how you are ever changing and ever sexy.
Have a boudoir photo session with me to celebrate where you are now and then have another one when your body has changed to celebrate how far you have come!
‘I DON’T KNOW HOW TO POSE’
That is a simple one! Don’t worry about poses! I have done this for more than 20 years! I will tell you exactly what to do and how to position yourself so it looks good on camera. Sometimes I get into the poses myself to show you and you can mirror me. It will be fun! It is my job to pose you and create amazing photographs of you.
‘I DON’T FEEL CONFIDENT ENOUGH’ OR ‘I DON’T FEEL SEXY ANYMORE, SO A BOUDOIR SESSION IS NOT FOR ME.’
Wrong! This is the perfect timing for you! It is totally normal to lose touch with our femininity or sexuality sometimes when life gets crazy because of health, kids or work. The right boudoir photo session is the perfect way to bring these feelings back into your life. For you alone or for you and your partner. You will feel empowered during your session and every time you look at your photos. Allow yourself the extra push of confidence!
And please don’t forget that you don’t have to wear super sexy clothing or lingerie in your session. You can wear whatever you feel comfortable with and shows your personality. We talk about this in the Planning Session.
‘A BOUDOIR SESSION IS AN INVESTMENT AND I DON’T HAVE ALL THE MONEY RIGHT NOW.’
Yes, a boudoir session is an investment. It is an investment in yourself, your well-being and confidence. We do offer payment plans! In order to book your photo session there is a booking retainer and we can set up your payment plan for the purchase of the products. Please let us know if you are interested in a payment plan. It comes with AMAZING BONUSES!
I LOVE HOW JONILEE SUMS IT UP IN THIS CLIP HERE. THIS WAS IMMEDIATELY AFTER HER PHOTO SESSION: